Tuesday Blog: Can You be too Independent?

    Being single isn't easy but you get used to not having a plus one to take to parties and being the odd woman out at the dinner table on holidays.  Aside from that, it isn't really a big deal most of the time.  I never really thought it was. 

Today at breakfast we were talking about biking and one of my co-workers asked me what I would do if I was involved with someone who wanted me to give it up.  I said without missing a beat, give him up.  I can't imagine why any man would ask me to give up mountain biking.  It isn't like I am hurting anyone.  I love it.  I have more fun doing it than anything I have ever done....ever! She said that some men don't like women to be so independent.   For all their faults, this has never been the experience I have had with any of the men I have known and for that, I am very grateful.  A certain amount of being taken care of is nice.  A little help here and there.  Telling me what to do is not something that has ever gone over well for anyone who has known me.  Ask my mother. 

So, would I compromise? Of course, I would. I would be willing to reduce my activities to spend more time doing things together and I would expect the same from him.  I would not give up mountain biking or baseball.  I don't expect him to give up everything for me either.  I don't expect him to want to do everything with me although honestly, how could he not when I am so super awesome?  Just kidding.

I really was amazed that apparently there are men who expect women to do what they say today, in this day and age. Maybe I am too independent but I won't apologize for it.  Maybe I have been alone too long.  I can't change that.  Really, I am at the point now where I am just me.  Like it or not.  Be with me or don't.   I have too many trails to hit and too many baseball games to go to and I will do it with my friends or alone or with a guy who likes me just as I am.

Simply,
Laura



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