What I am loving and Have a Pinteresting Wednesday #4

What I am loving:

Snow, not ice 

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We have been buried under a sheet of ice.   I know that everyone says Texas just can't handle winter but you try handling it after having 60 degree days on Saturday and this Monday, Tuesday and today. I love winter but not ice.  So give me the snow, within reason but you can keep the ice.  

My personal Ice Rink

Sneek Peek at the latest project. 

Here is a peek at my latest project which I got going this weekend and then, with the cold temps in the garage promptly abandoned until I can feel the paint on my fingers again.  I can't wait to breath new life into this table.  The new stain is going to be amazing.

I tweeted Joanna Gaines last week and she favorited my tweet.  I am such a geek.  I swear I felt about 300 feet high for 24 hours!  My favorite HGTV style icon favorited my TWEET!!!!

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I love this quote.  I have been struggling a lot within myself lately by overthinking things that happened in the past and I realized that I define me.  I can't let my mistakes define me and I can't let people from my past define me.  It doesn't matter what other people think about me, what matters is that I know that I am a good, honest, well meaning person and yes, I have faults but I am not my faults.  I am so much more.   So, whatever anyone else thinks about me, the only thing in the end that matters is what I think about myself because that is how I am going to be accepted or rejected by the world.

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My husband told me one day last week loving me is so much harder because I don't love myself.  Ok, that is paraphrasing what he said because he speaks with a southern accent so thick and he is as subtle as a train wreck.  That is what he meant though.  :)  

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Bacon...yum.

Okay that is about all I have today.   I have been thrown completely off by trying to do my taxes and get ready for vacation in a couple of weeks and the snow  Ice storm did not help me do anything except sit on my bottom and watch a lot of movies.

When Words Hurt

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"Why would anyone cheer an overweight kid for finishing the race last? That's what is wrong with parents today! They are feeding their kids Cheetos and then cheering them for participation in sports." This was said by a grown man who should know better. A father. A coach. It is a paraphrase of something overheard by a friend recently. The overweight offensive kid in question? A twelve year old little girl.

I wish I had been there when these things were said because I would have pulled this grown man aside and explained to him the years of pain these words and others just like them can bring. The damage that the stuff he said, thinking he was so superior and smart, could inflict. The bulimia. The anorexia. The compulsive eating. The cutting. The self abuse. The self hate. The empty relationships. The searching for a love that would never come. I would have explained to him how that 12 year old little girl may turn to drugs to get thin. She may turn to sex to feel beautiful. Neither will work, of course. It won't be his words alone. No, of course not.

His words are only part of it. There are other words. There are the words that the kid in the alley said as he road by on his bike when she was 5. "Look out fatty." There were the words that her mother said in anger once "you're so fat, you disgust me." There were the words her sister wrote in her diary that she shouldn't have read but she did "I am so glad I am not fat like her." There will be other words too. The words of the boys who turn her down for dates. The words of the boys who break her heart and she is sure it is because she isn't pretty enough or thin enough or both. They are the same thing in her mind. All of these things add up. All of these things tell her she isn't enough. She won't ever be enough. Finishing last is all she will ever do. Finishing last isn't good enough, the man was right. She isn't worthy.


Words hurt. Words can destroy. This is what I would have told this man. I would have told him that he should really think carefully about the stupid things he says before he says them. I would have told him that is why we should encourage her to finish because it is positive and perhaps she will find a love for running and in doing so, develop a healthy habit and find her inner strength. I would have told him that nobody is perfect and he should not judge her on the superficial because in God's eyes she is just as important as he is and he is absolutely no better, no matter how superior he thinks he is.

Then I would gave gone over to the little girl and given her a hug. I would have told her that she is beautiful and worthy and finishing is enough and she should be proud because a lot of people don't even try. I would have told her to never give up because someday she will look in the mirror and see the most amazing woman looking back at her. The woman won't be perfect and she will have battle scars but she will be strong and beautiful in her own way and she will be very, very happy.




Simply,
Laura
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I'm not "beautiful" and that's ok 

This is without question my favorite blog from last week.  I have been fighting eating disorders for most of my life  The fact that I don't really fit into Abercrombie and Fitch's definition of beautiful isn't surprising but their opinion is dangerous.  Being honest has gotten easier over the year I have been blogging but it is still hard to say that "I am beautiful the way I am."   Hope you enjoy the blog and thanks for coming by!

Simply,
Laura