Today at breakfast we were talking about biking and one of my co-workers asked me what I would do if I was involved with someone who wanted me to give it up. I said without missing a beat, give him up. I can't imagine why any man would ask me to give up mountain biking. It isn't like I am hurting anyone. I love it. I have more fun doing it than anything I have ever done....ever! She said that some men don't like women to be so independent. For all their faults, this has never been the experience I have had with any of the men I have known and for that, I am very grateful. A certain amount of being taken care of is nice. A little help here and there. Telling me what to do is not something that has ever gone over well for anyone who has known me. Ask my mother.
So, would I compromise? Of course, I would. I would be willing to reduce my activities to spend more time doing things together and I would expect the same from him. I would not give up mountain biking or baseball. I don't expect him to give up everything for me either. I don't expect him to want to do everything with me although honestly, how could he not when I am so super awesome? Just kidding.
I really was amazed that apparently there are men who expect women to do what they say today, in this day and age. Maybe I am too independent but I won't apologize for it. Maybe I have been alone too long. I can't change that. Really, I am at the point now where I am just me. Like it or not. Be with me or don't. I have too many trails to hit and too many baseball games to go to and I will do it with my friends or alone or with a guy who likes me just as I am.
- Posted using BlogPress from my iPhone