Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Tuesday Blog: Can You be too Independent?

Being single isn't easy but you get used to not having a plus one to take to parties and being the odd woman out at the dinner table on holidays.  Aside from that, it isn't really a big deal most of the time.  I never really thought it was. 

Today at breakfast we were talking about biking and one of my co-workers asked me what I would do if I was involved with someone who wanted me to give it up.  I said without missing a beat, give him up.  I can't imagine why any man would ask me to give up mountain biking.  It isn't like I am hurting anyone.  I love it.  I have more fun doing it than anything I have ever done....ever! She said that some men don't like women to be so independent.   For all their faults, this has never been the experience I have had with any of the men I have known and for that, I am very grateful.  A certain amount of being taken care of is nice.  A little help here and there.  Telling me what to do is not something that has ever gone over well for anyone who has known me.  Ask my mother. 

So, would I compromise? Of course, I would. I would be willing to reduce my activities to spend more time doing things together and I would expect the same from him.  I would not give up mountain biking or baseball.  I don't expect him to give up everything for me either.  I don't expect him to want to do everything with me although honestly, how could he not when I am so super awesome?  Just kidding.

I really was amazed that apparently there are men who expect women to do what they say today, in this day and age. Maybe I am too independent but I won't apologize for it.  Maybe I have been alone too long.  I can't change that.  Really, I am at the point now where I am just me.  Like it or not.  Be with me or don't.   I have too many trails to hit and too many baseball games to go to and I will do it with my friends or alone or with a guy who likes me just as I am.


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Monica said...

Not only are there men that expect a woman to do whatever they say it goes both ways. And there are also women who want their entire lives to revolve around whatever the man wants and they pretty much give up any sort of life outside of their relationship or what they do together. To me it makes absolutely no sense but I guess whatever makes them happy.

Rachel said...

I can't imagine anyone asking you to give up biking. If a man told me I had to give up watching sports, first of all I would ask him if he was sure he even LIKED girls, but second, I'd be like, "child, please".

And I think you are awesome!


DoxieDoodle said...

haha! Well, thank you! Sometimes I think you are my second biggest fan behind my mom!
I can't imagine anyone asking me to give up biking either or sports but some guys don't really like it when women know sports. Weird, I know. Eh, I can only be me. I'm a freak of nature! LOL

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