Have you ever been driving down the road and suddenly someone pops into your head who you haven't thought about in years? This happened to me yesterday. I wasn't feeling well and I was driving home in the rain when I suddenly thought of a former friend who I haven't seen or spoken to in years.
This person was more than a friend to me, she was a roommate for a time and we were like sisters. We spent tons of time over a couple of years hanging out, mostly at my house. We use to watch ballgames together. She was my go to sports buddy for a long time.
But some things happened and we "Broke Up". I don't know why I thought about her. I don't think I have given her a second thought in several years. I don't wish her any ill will I just never wanted to talk to her once we had the disagreement. The argument itself was not the problem, the problem was that the relationship was flawed and in the end, it would not have mattered to me if she had apologized (She never did), because the trust was lost. This happens very easily with me. Trust is easy for me to give but once you have lost it, you won't get it back. I forgive, but I do not forget, ever.
That doesn't mean I can't or haven't. My best friend and I broke up. We laugh about it now. We talk about how silly the argument was. She was mad because I took her husband's side. What was I thinking? She hung up on me and didn't call back for 10 months. When she did call, I was very reserved and I thought to myself, 'No way am I letting her back in my life.' but I did. I had to, she's my person. We had years to look back on. We had reasons to forgive and forget. Now, those things don't matter.
I found this article on Huffington Post yesterday and sent it to a friend who's children are adopted. I was in utter awe of this story and it brought tears to my eyes. I understand the wish, the desire to have a child and not be able to have one so I was really touched by this piece.
I have so much respect for people who open their hearts, lives and home to children who need them and give them the love they haven't had so far in life. If you have adopted a child, good for you. You did what most of us don't, you cared for another, not of your blood but of your heart.